Loving Lair | A loving story

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I have found the one I love; I held him and would not let him go – Songs of Solomon 3:4.

The word ‘Loving’ has always held a fascination for me for the last decade of my life, I have wanted to use it as far back as I can remember, even introducing a category on my blog similarly titled back in 2017 though it remained dormant until this year. The timing to populate it was never quite right as it wasn’t all up to me, I had to consider another’s position and preferences. Additionally, and perhaps more distressing, I myself was struggling with love since I wasn’t connected to the endless source of love and kept running dry as a result. Trying to pour from an empty pitcher felt akin to attempting to milk a stone. It was the classic ‘there’s a hole in the bucket dear Henry’ song, always leaking and never filling up. But time and chance happen to everything and the timing is finally right for me.

A loving father – The relentless pursuit

This year I have experienced the greatest love of all. My heavenly father used a situation caused by the enemy to get my attention in a spectacular way. He used the opportunity to isolate and separate me from a close friend that was in darkness. (Psalm 88:8 NIV “You have taken from me my closest friends and have made me repulsive to them. I am confined and cannot escape.) and (Psalm 88:18 NASB “You have removed lover and friend far from me; My acquaintances are in darkness.”) Subsequently, He led me to the desert where he pursued me relentlessly and allured me into discarding any other love but Him (Hosea 2:14 NIV “Therefore I am now going to allure her; I will lead her into the wilderness and speak tenderly to her).

His love captivated me as spring sprung and I have since been engaged in the purest love affair of my life. It’s an amazing feeling to be continuously connected to the source of love. The biggest perk is that our wells will never run dry as He keeps filling our cup to the brim resulting in our love overflowing and running over to bless others. The truth is, we love because the Father loves us; indeed, it is his plan that we love like he does once we’ve found him. I, for one, have found the one my soul longs for, and I want everyone else to find Him too.

A loving life

When love finds us, it gives us life, causing us to seek to engage in lifegiving activities. Love found me and nurtured me tenderly, giving me life; and now I seek to engage in life-affirming engagements. My thoughts, actions and reactions are consumed with loving. I desire to live in a world that’s permeated with the deep abiding love of Christ (John 15:9 NIV “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love”). I feel a desperate need arising from deep within me, a warmhearted desire to become love. That everything I do expresses love. More than ever before, I want to love like my Father. As I’ve said before, His love is unconditional in that from all the range of emotions we could have in any given situation we face in life, all the options we have from our loving father are distilled to just one -love.

Our spirit has to be right in order for love to flow freely. It is only through our father’s love that we too can become love. Through the empowerment of His spirit, we too can learn to love unconditionally like Him. Only in our Father are we able to love fully, for we cannot love apart from God’s love. He pours into us so we can pour out to others. Again, we cannot be self-centered and not be frustrated. Why? Because there is nothing in self that will ultimately give us satisfaction. It is in loving that we become totally free. Only the person who loves is free. And we should all want to live free and unshackled lives; I certainly do, for in the end, in the final analysis, it was love that saved me.

A loving overflow

No one receives good news and then keeps it to themselves (no one lights a lamp and puts it under a basket – Matthew 5:15). When love find us, it beautifies our world, and soon we are overflowing to others. Love is the eternal medicine, the purest curer. Love found me and beautified my world, and now I’m overflowing to you. My thoughts, actions and reactions are consumed with loving, and I want the same for you. When love finds us, we have a desire to reach out to others and nurture them with the same loving we ourselves have been nurtured with (the father of mercies and God of all comfort comforts us in our tribulations so we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble with the comfort which we ourselves are comforted by God – 2 Corinthians 1:4). This is because when love finds us, it infuses us with gentleness, nurturing us tenderly, and we in turn cannot help but turn to nurture others.  

These are the topics the blog will continue to explore as we move into our fifth year of blogging: how we can grow spiritually and expand our capacity to love as our father loves; how this love can overflow and pour out from us and into a world that desperately needs it; how we can live loving wholesome lives; how we can create spaces that nurture us and beautify the world around us, starting with our very own homes.

Just like in my experience, our father is pursuing you relentlessly so you too can get to experience the greatest love of all when you respond to this act of mercy on his part. Once his love captivates us, we start on this beautiful journey of exploits with him as we experience ever-expanding dimensions of our loving Father. As for me and my house, I have determined I will love the Lord with all of my heart, with all of my soul, with all of my mind, with everything that I have, for all the days of my life. For in the end, it is love that beautifies. Welcome to our journey into the father’s heart. ღ Ms. Grey ღ



  1. Helena Grey | Loving Lair
    December 5, 2019 / 4:56 AM

    Hello Loving Fam, A Loving Story was the second post in my new blog series. Here, I explained the inspiration behind the blog name. I would SO love to get some feedback on what you think about it -please do share should you feel so inclined, all opinions are welcome! Cheers, Helena

  2. Eric
    November 28, 2019 / 2:33 AM

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