Loving Lair | A Faith Lifestyle Blog

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Running this blog these past four years has been one of the most rewarding creative endeavor I have undertaken in my entire life. Each new week that I get to come back to these pages to indulge in some creative writing continues to be a most fulfilling practice. It is my intention to continue to create a literary world that I can share with you, dear Reader, so thank you for stopping by the blog today. Without fanfare, it is my great pleasure to introduce you to the new blog name– Loving Lair. The new name succinctly summarize what this blog has evolved into as we continue on our journey of becoming.

It is my desire that this blog continues to reflect our aspirations as we document our travail to becoming that which we seek. Here are some of the topics the blog will continue to explore as we move into our fifth year of blogging.

Our first mission field

As the saying goes, charity begins at home. A loving lair as living space is thus foundational in fostering an environment where everyone knows they are loved and can thus flourish. Fundamentally, our homes are our first mission field. As such, we are called to serve in our homes first before we can go out and try to save the world. Because societies are molded one family at a time, decay in any given society will point back to a failure in our first mission field, the home. Conversely, a healthy society will shine a light on a loving home. Home is where the fabric of our society is spun. It’s in our homes that the vibrant tapestry of our norms, values, culture and traditions is crafted and defined.

Our credibility is only established when the love we seek to spread around the world first permeates our homes. It is only then that our witness will be effective in sharing and spreading the Father’s love to the rest of the world. Since our homes, our lairs, are the first reflection of the health of our society in general, we owe it to ourselves to create tender loving spaces that nurture and tend to hearts and minds, while beautifying the world around us.

Becoming Love

Whatever the purpose of life, to love is our highest calling. Becoming love has to be our highest and most noble pursuit. A loving heart is the foundation of all positive creativity in life. There is little to love in humanity as our bodies are gross and subject to decay, while our hearts are deceitful above all else. Without God, we really are just selfish lumps of clay. Yet when we are connected to God the source, who is love, He teaches us, not just to tolerate, but to actually love the unlovable. In its purest form, love is overflowing. Our Father’s love will naturally flow through us, pouring out to those around us that need it and out into the rest of the world, fostering an atmosphere of serenity, love, peace and acceptance. In the journey to becoming love, everything done must be rooted in love.

Loving is the purpose of our father. It is what he expects of us, and what he’s molding us to become. All the options from our loving father are distilled to just one -love. His word provides for nothing else but to love. The result is that love becomes the answer to everything. Love is always the answer. Love is the only answer, indeed the only way, the more excellent way (1 Corinthians 13). Whenever in doubt, choose love. Always return to love. Love imperfectly, but love all the same. Love more. Love again. Love always. We love because the Father loves us. It is only through Him that we can become love.

Have I loved you well today?

All human beings are beautiful when they are loved, and no one can love better than our loving father. A worthy life revolves around the pursuit of wholesome living, a result of tenderly crafted lives deeply immersed in peace, unity, hope, faith and love. When we create peaceful spaces where we can lovingly tend to things and to each other, only then can our bodies flow and follow the natural rhythm of our energy, allowing our souls to rest and replenish in our loving Father. Living wholesomely includes nurturing our relationships and creating loving homes for our families, while resiliently banding together to push through challenges, further contributing to our households and communities. Nurturing gentleness of spirit in our souls allows us as humans to approach life with a tender and vulnerable heart.

It is beauty and nurturing that is needed to allow healthy relationships to form and for social fabrics to be knit together in a strong and powerful enduring and endearing way. When we engage in wholesome nurturing pursuits with those in the orbit of our circles, our spirits are cyclically affirmed, spreading goodness and kindness all around, allowing us to keep pursuing creative endeavors that further beautify the world around us. The question of whether we have loved well today can be laid to rest as we learn to walk closer with our father, who beyond being the source of love, is love itself.

Why Loving Lair?

The name, “Loving Lair”, comes from a deep desire to become love, and to create loving spaces in our literal homes as well as our literary world here on the blog. As I go about making my new home, I want to create a loving lair for my loved ones, a tranquil home that’s founded on love. In my opinion, femininity is one of the greatest gifts a woman can bestow to the world as it embodies a mercy-seeking peaceful and gentle spirit which blesses everyone, while its masculine complement focuses on agency and action as intended by the creator. In more ways than one, we each owe it to society to create warm, cozy, loving atmospheres in our homes where we can then build our families.

Together, we create comfortable, loving, peaceful and welcoming homes that become restful havens for those we love, places of refuge from the turmoil of the outside world, places to recharge before stepping out again to infuse our love out there into the world, places to come home to and be tended to, nurtured, nestled and nested so that our loved ones will thrive. As we create loving lairs for our loved ones at home, we unearth and uncover within us a drive to beautify, displaying an interesting mix of creativity and whimsy. Our aesthetics communicate warmth and tranquility, even as we focus on creating homes that are founded on love.

Going Forward

In the next few posts, I will detail further the topics, that are burning in my heart to share with you; they will all be in the same vein as those expressed here. New beginnings are opportunities for us to get back to the drawing board and reassess what we really value. For me, this is what I always wanted to blog about from when I first began writing. This has been my life’s passion from as far back as I can remember, but I always felt I could never write about such matters, first because I had another to consider, and second because I feared I had not attained perfection in these areas. Now I realize that what qualifies me to write about these issues is precisely because of my desire to becoming these things and more. I deliberately choose to shine a light on these topics with renewed vigor as I pursue the most ideal version of myself that I could ever hope to achieve.

The Apostle Paul details his decision to press on in Philippians 3:12-14:

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.’

Let us all press on towards God’s ideal for us all; journey with me to the Father’s heart. ღ Ms. Grey ღ


1 Comment

  1. Helena Grey | Loving Lair
    December 5, 2019 / 4:54 AM

    Hi Loving Fam, this was my intro post and it looks like when I posted this, my comment section was behind a firewall so you all couldn’t leave me a comment. I’d really love to know what you think about the new blog name and the new topics, so should you happen to see this now, please feel free to drop your comments here and share your opinions. Also, feel free to let me know topics you’d like us to talk about. Cheers y’all, Helena

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